Stu, I'm not that familiar with all of your sitch and am just responding mainly to this page.

Detach, mate, DETACH. You are choosing to be in reactionary mode. Yes, it's painful, but the suffering is an option you are signing up for.

Her choices, her decisions, her right. Respect that.

Your boundaries, your choices, your right. Do this.

Don't "give impressions" to your W. LIVE it. and live it for YOU.

Me 42
W 39
Married: 11 Jan 1998, T: Since 1992
First Bomb: Sep 2007
Confirmed A/OM: 4 Nov 2007
Kids: D10, S5
Reconciled and together again after (alot of) time and heartbreak.
3rd kid, S, born 2 Jan 2010.