The issues I am having in my detachment process is my intellect tells me my WAS is not coming back and I am probably better off without her.
Same here.
Originally Posted By: brknheart
My emotions are telling me that I want her back and am hoping she wakes up one day and realizes what she is doing is wrong.
My emotions now tell me I don't want who she is now back. At all. And I know she will realize one day what she did was wrong. She destroyed everything family-wise and appears intent on finishing off whatever 'loose ends" she's left blended-family-wise
Originally Posted By: brknheart
I am at the point where I am making decisions about my future, without the WAS. This involves moving on with my life completely, new city, new job, new friends.
I'm with you there, too. Will be moving away at some time after D. Probably within 6 months.
And yet, I maintain the capacity for compassion (definition:Sympathetic pity).
She is confused, distraught, in pain, scared, has FOO issues erupting inside her and has been woefully misguided by at least one IC and probably MC, too, through all those secretive individual sessions she had with him (7) while we went to see him together (13). In fact, the only suspicion I ever had that there is or was an OM has been him and his oh-so-smooth manipulative, svengali-like effect he had on her and his obvious (to me) attraction to her.
Still, I have much compassion for her and her issues but they are all beyond my capacity to do anything for her except the one thing she has repeatedly asked of me since February; "Just leave me alone"
Sorry. Got carried away again, as usual. Should've put this on my thread. Maybe I'll paste it there.
But, as I started out to say, brknheart: I hear you and I understand completely.
Hang in there.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
