I know what you mean about the over analyzing when things are going well. In the back of my mind, I wonder "is he doing this because he feels guilty about something?" "Is he doing this because enough time has gone by and he feel as if it's his duty?"
I've tried to explain to my DH that it's important that we schedule time to ML. Of course, spontaneity is great. But, I think when someone has LD, they tend to believe they need to be really turned on and it will just happen (like in the movies). I'm not sure if I'm making any sense here. I once read that some people need to start ML before they get turned on. That if they wait until they are turned on it might never, or rarely happen.
I guess I need to explain a bit more, my problem with the AD isn't low desire it's that it takes me a very long time to orgasm. It has decreased my desire, but honestly, we are more evenly matched now. One thing that has always helped us is our sense of humor. We joke about our sexual dysfunctions now.
I haven't talked with him much about our problems because he was sick for a few weeks, then I had surgery. I have asked him if he feels as if the testosterone is helping and he says he thinks so. I don't quite know what to think about that. He does initiate more. In fact, I have not initiated in several months. I'm letting him take the lead. That's easier to do now that my desire is a bit lower. I'm going to try and have a talk with him in the next week or so.
I have found that my thoughts (really a bit of OCD) about his past have nearly stopped. When they come up, I'm able to let them go. My therapist has really helped me with this.
I know all of this is going to take some time. But, I am happy with our progress.
Well, I better go...the medication is taking affect...I'm getting very sleepy.
