Question--what signs did your WAS give to let you

[newmama]

Try to take your focus off your H, who is on a journey that he needs to take for himself, and put it on you and your baby. Don't pressure him, but don't expect anything either. GALing definitely works, and is your reward for this difficult time. And in those dark and lonely hours when it seeems impossible not to obsess about your difficult situation, try instead to visualize the sort of woman and mother you admire most and would like to be--and then become her.

Good luck!

Thanks so much for answering my q.I am doing almost exactly what you advised and am noticing some changes in WH which is why I am asking others to share their experience.The changes seem small but he has been very nice and much more caring toward me. So I wonder if a) what I am doing is working and b) do the WASs who want to reconcile let you know and change just as quickly as they did during their A? there is that script they follow, you know! :-)