Maybe you've said before, but I don't recall- are you planning on offering for the kids to move with you once you're out. Though they may not want to leave their home, their home is with you.
BIM M 39 / H 40 / S 9 / S 6 / T 20 / M 11
my sitch: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=1828127#Post1828127
Okay, SB, Here's a total non sequitur to take your mind off things for five or six minutes:
Earlier this week, Puppy told me to put up Ted Nugent posters in my new man-cave to which I replied, "no, Mountain and Leslie West posters". You asked who he was (just the best under-rated rock guitarist America ever produced and who Howard Stern calls the Segovia of Rock). Wrote "Mississippi Queen", which you were familiar with. Well, whether you like this kind of music or not, here he is (about 200 lbs, lighter) in one of his best single performances ever from 1988's Night of The Guitar Greats in London.
Yes, I am expecting a 50/50 split of the kids time- I'm getting a 2 bedroom townhouse apartment to make sure I have room for D during the week. I am really not sure what to expect as to how the kids will actually split their time. They're 17 and 19, and mobile, so they will have a lot of say about it.
I was debating about what to do about Friday, I may not even stay here that night after packing. Option 2- wait until H goes to bed and pack during the night. I'm going out to dinner with mom tomorrow, she's going to help me go over everything for that weekend- making lists of things to make sure I grab, etc. I'm sure he'll change the locks after I'm out- I won't be getting back in.
I was debating about what to do about Friday, I may not even stay here that night after packing. Option 2- wait until H goes to bed and pack during the night. I'm going out to dinner with mom tomorrow, she's going to help me go over everything for that weekend- making lists of things to make sure I grab, etc. I'm sure he'll change the locks after I'm out- I won't be getting back in.
I know I've said this before, but I have a friend who had to do something similar. She literally had the police escort her into he house, collect her belongings, and leave with her.
You might look into the legality of his changing the locks in your state; someone else pointed out that if your name is on the title, he can't legally prevent you from entering without some kind of restraining order.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
It's illegal for him to change the locks at the house if you are on the title, so if he changes the locks, call the police. There was a LBS here whose H would come home all the time and take her stuff, but the police came with him when she changed the locks to let her know she had to give him a key.
Stand strong; all will be well.
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
I nearly gave myself a heart attack this morning, I absolutely panicked. I tried to call H about S's bday tomorrow and his night-time message (DND) was still on his office phone. He knows mom is visiting this evening, and I was scared s***less that he got suspicious of me, decided to stay home and clear out some stuff. Turns out he just forgot to switch his DND off when he arrived this morning. I am getting paranoid, but I don't think he's on to me about moving out because he was talking about next year's benefits package at work and what we were signing up for.
I think Mom is furious at him. She asked if he isn't there while she is, do I want to get a few things out tonight and throw them in her car? I just might if he isn't around.
