After our C on Friday, he appeared to be wavering a little and then when the A was slightly threatened by his guilt/shame -they have kicked it into overdrive--seeing each other after work more than usual. (Counselor predicted it)
I'm not a counsellor or qualified in ANY WAY to comment on this but I have to say I smiled when I read it. That is just so predictable.
If their A / R is SO strong and wonderful and great, why would the mutterings of a wife (ie. you) and a stupid counsellor kick their R so hard that they have to scramble and grab each other for dear life for the fear it's going to slip away from them?
They have not kicked their R into overdrive because they want to suddenly spend more time together (otherwise they would have spent that extra time together anyway). It's been kicked into overdrive as it's been threatened. Strong relationships don't get threatened by the words of an LBS and a counsellor. Weak, desperate and fragile relationships do. IMHO, their R going into overdrive is a good sign that the garden is far from rosy.
Just my 2 cents worth.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
