Here are my thoughts.... Don't try to make decisions on "forever" right now. She may feel or say or think things right now that are not what is deep down. She just can't see that now because of all the emotions that are on top.
I think she does need some time to be left alone. I could even see where some time away from HER would help you too.
Seems like this is just such an emotionally charged situation right now that it needs some time to subside a bit.
Then the situation as far as what you do is really not much different than it was before. DB, be her friend, be there for her without intruding etc.
