Originally Posted By: lostmybestfriend
I appreciate your advice. I understand what you are saying. I don't want to be a controlling person.


If you haven't read this thread, you should. It gives a great example of settings a boundary vs. controlling behavior.

In short: as long as you make it understood that a boundary is about your feelings more than it is their behavior, it's not controlling. They have every right to ignore your boundary, but then they suffer the consequences.

Me: 44, Wife: 39
M: 17 years T: 20 years
Bomb on 08/25/09
1/13/10: MC started
1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs
8/28/10: Wife moved out
No talk of D, no movement

"Every day is another chance to get it right."