Should I be working on building more contact? Right now it's virtually none, and has been for a about a week. I did send her a link to a funny site and she replied saying it helped when she was having a bad night (at work). I've been avoiding talking to her because it's too hard for me right now. I'll probably keep it little-to-no-contact now, but I'm wondering when is a good time to start building up to more...

~Mark

Me: 38
W: 34
Together: 9yrs
1st M: may '03
1st D: april '08
1st bomb: june '08
remarried: oct '08
2nd bomb: aug '09 --(W asked for D one week into 3 mo. trial separation which was meant to save our M)