Well the weekend went pretty well. I spent most of Sat. with W and kids. We carved pumpkins, and just hung out. D1 started to get sick so W didnt think she should go to the carnival. She got all ready and then decided it would not be a good idea to go. So it was just me and D6, which was fine we had fun. Came back and rented some movies and watched them.
Sun I heled W move some more. We did kind of have a talk Sun afternoon. Maby some of you can help me figure out what W is thinking.
She said "Mike, I dont know what is going to happen. I wish I could just make a decision, and let you know, and just stick with that. But right now I am so torn between so many different things, that I just dont know." She said "You are welcome to come over and see the girls any time you want, but I have to make some rules." She said "I told the girls that this is their sanctuary, their place and there wont be another roomate. So if you come over you need to leave by 11:00." She said, "If your not sure you want to be in their lives I need to know now, it has to be 100%"
Then she started to cry, and said, "I have done alot of stupid things, and I have to find myself, and put the girls first." She said, "I dont know what is going to happen, but I wont play any games. So many times I wanted to call you and ask you to come over and just hold me. But I didnt want to do that and then go back to being mad at you the next day, I wont play those games."
It didnt go exactly like that, and she was crying at the end. As sonn as she started saying she had done alot of stupid things she got up, and started doing somthing else, and stopped talking.
The whole conversation, I just listened, and validated, and told her I understand. I assured her I was here 100%, and promised her I was going nowhere. I told here that these are just words, but I she gives me time and a chance, I will show her what I say is true. She said she would.
Has anyone had this experience. What is the best way to proceed? I know I need to be careful, things are still touchy.
