This is why I advise people to -- AHEAD OF TIME -- decide what their "strikes" are going to be. In a calm moment, absent of any conflict and definitely BEFORE IT HAPPENS, to decide if re-contact is:
- one strike and you're out? ("zero tolerance")
- one strike, but only if self-confessed?
- one strike, but if you don't confess it, if I ask you, you'd better tell me the truth?
- two strikes? three? Other??
This can only be if the two of you have AGREED on the no-contact, tho. I can't remember -- DID you?
