Puppy, I think all the women on here ate their Wheaties this morning. Some mojo in the air right now.
Coach
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
To be honest, I have been thinking a lot about his revelation re: his feelings for my sister. I DO NOT deserve to be treated like that. I know he was 'being honest with me' because I asked him about their phone conversations. It's just the more I think about it, the more pissed off it get! I mean, I understand feelings are not controllable BUT the way you choose to react to them are. I am moving towards a place where I deserve better and I DO deserve to have a man who is 'in love' with me and ONLY me.
It still hits home occasionally, but the crying has stopped. If he wants to be with me he will. If he wants to D, it will happen eventually. I can't live everyday waiting on him, and like a previous post today said "He is already gone!!!" What, telling him to do his dishes and get the kids to bed early is going to make him never come back??? Oh well, he needs to grow a damn backbone and face up to his commitment to this family.
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Me: 33 / H: 36 M: 10y / T: 14y 3 kids BD: 2/22/14 Live in separation 3/8/14 H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14 H moved out 4/25/14 2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month
Whoa! PiGA, did you get actuall confirmation of an EA with your sister?! I've been in a funk these past few days and a little out of the loop.
All I know is that he has had feelings for her over the years. As our relationship got to low points, he would like her more and vice versa. It never turned into anything as far as I know. I am 100% sure there was no physical contact. As for her feelings for him, she is stating she kinda knew he might feel that way but wasn't sure and she does not want to be in the middle of all of this. As far as I know she has cut off communication with him. BUT, I do not trust her 100% and I will not for a very long time. Him either.
Right now I am just pissed he allowed those feelings to ebb and flow as he did and that he sorta acted on them after the split. (By contacting her so much)
Me: 33 / H: 36 M: 10y / T: 14y 3 kids BD: 2/22/14 Live in separation 3/8/14 H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14 H moved out 4/25/14 2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month
(((PiGA))) These situations are bad enough, but having the potential OW be your sister is just horrifying.
Thanks, and yes, I agree. It tears apart more than just me, him, and the kids. Now it is reaching further into my life.
Me: 33 / H: 36 M: 10y / T: 14y 3 kids BD: 2/22/14 Live in separation 3/8/14 H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14 H moved out 4/25/14 2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month
Just got home from seeing the counselor at the church. She has been divorced before after 25 years of marriage and is re-married for 8 years now. Basically, she said that I am doing everything she would recommend. She is a follower of DR without ever reading the book! Her first husband came back to her twice. The first time he left again (affair) and the second time she left him because she couldn't let go of the hurt. Anyway, she said I am doing better than she was at this point. She said she cried for 7 months straight before she GAL and let him go.
It felt good to talk to 'one of you' in person.
Me: 33 / H: 36 M: 10y / T: 14y 3 kids BD: 2/22/14 Live in separation 3/8/14 H consult lawyer, says filing asap 4/24/14 H moved out 4/25/14 2nd time around. 1st separation 4y ago lasted a month
