Emotional affairs are every bit as dangerous and devastating as pysical ones. The OW is a wrench in the healthy dynamic of you and your husband's relationship and as long as she's present there is an impenetrable roadblock to your mutual happiness.
My W's friendship with OM caused her to completely rewrite our past and present, put words in my mouth that I had never spoken, and do everything she could to convince herself that her feelings for OM were the right ones and her feelings for me had always been hollow and meaningless.
The chemical and emotional high of new relationships quite simply changes the person, but the real person is still there laying dormant. My W came off of her high and has rediscovered all the reasons she loves me, but even that hasn't broken the hold the OM has over her. It's actually a lot like substance abuse, and you should prepare yourself for either your H going through some form of withdrawal from the OW, or hiding the fact that he's still seeing her from you. Or perhaps like in my case just doing it right in broad daylight for all to see.
Your best weapons are patience and taking care of yourself.
Last edited by Frosty Michael; 11/19/0908:45 PM.
Age: 28 Wife's Age: 28 Relationship: 10 Years (dated on and off) Married: Less than one year Seperated: 1.75 years, finally served with D 4/30/2011
