No, but you had said I can do things that would keep her there longer and continue to push her away and that is not at all want i want to do.
I want to be strong for all of us, not just me, don't want her to feel the way she does about herself or me and a chance at a new relationship.
If she was rational, if she was rational we wouldn't be in this mess.
This is not a WAS, this is total MLC.
Too many irrational actions towards me and it happened too soon after the death of her grandfather.
Now she may have been in Denial before that, but that was definately the final trigger, 2 wks after his death she changed.
Unfortunately and can't do anything about it, she went to a family counselor that gave her homework on the positives of our marriage, which "fortunately we have more good than bad."
But the awkwardness then anger progressed to quickly and she was probably told things that she chose not to do and now she is not seeking help from anyone.
So the only chance I have is. God,you guys and Me.
You all are making me a better person and I feel if I can lead by example she'll take another look.
I don't want retribution, I don't want an apology, my end goal is to be a better husband and father, for no one else, but myself.
