K4D Rising #4

[K4D]

You know what. Nevermind. That wouldn't solve anything. It would just be a stupid tactic.

Kevin

[smith18]

Pretty funny - you are conversing with yourself. As long as you dont start arguing with yourself, I think you will be ok.

[Virtually_Handsome]

He says that when I get confirmed catholic that my graces will be stronger.

Didn't think much of this the first time I read it. Don't think much of it now.

I'd be mighty surpised if that's how the Big Guy works.

Just sayin'.

[Coach]

He says that when I get confirmed catholic that my graces will be stronger.

Didn't think much of this the first time I read it. Don't think much of it now.

I'd be mighty surpised if that's how the Big Guy works.

Just sayin'.

yeah, I'm with ya Jeff. I'm Catholic and that didn't resonate with me. I think the priest is saying with the sacrament of confirmation you will receive a
sacramental grace with graces proper to the sacrament. Confirmation is about being annoited with chrism oil and sealed with the Gift of the Holy Spirit. The Holy Spirit being the source of grace. You don't earn stripes to get grace. It's yours for the asking.

That being said you can be in a different state of grace, how close you are to God, just like any relationship. And like we know, relationships take time and love to thrive.

[K4D]

Maybe I misunderstood what he was saying. I am still learning this stuff.

Kevin

[K4D]

Ok, so W is deciding to back out of thanksgiving now because she is uncomfortable with my dad there. My dad said if she was coming over he would go somewhere else for dinner. The girls want me and W to have thanksgiving dinner with them.

W says things have been contentious between us for a while and just doesn't know. I guess they have been.

Holidays. ugg.

Kevin

[Startingover2]

Holidays are tough...especially those first ones. Who does what, who goes where? If she doesn't want to be there then just leave it. Don't bring it up anymore. You, your dad, and girls have a great day. Let her eat a Turkey TV dinner alone! It may give her a taste of what real divorced life is going to be like. She won't have her girls all the time. I for sure wouldn't cancel out my own dad. Its not like your W has been teetering on whether to stay M or not. Shes made up her mind.

[K4D]

I had a good talk with W tonight. She is not going to come, but she is going to make her awesome turkey that she makes every year and bring it over for me, my dad, and the girls. She and the girls are having lunch with her mom and stepdad for thanksgiving.

Startingover2, my W is never without friends of any type. She is the life of the party. A social butterfly. She will always have something to do with someone. It is hard to get her to breakaway for the kids.

She said that she may spend Christmas day with me and the girls. I won't have any family here and apparently her family seems to be leaving town for Christmas.

We worked out a new schedule for the girls and us. It seems fair to me.

She said that things seemed contentious lately and that she wasn't sure about being around me. I said I didn't realize things were contentious. I said I don't want that kind of relationship with you and I will work to not keep it that way. We just ended up having a good chat about things non relationship wise. It was the first time in a long time that there didn't seem to be any tension between us.

So I haven't quite decided yet whether or not I am going to take a date to the margarita ball. A friend of mine thinks I should and let my W see it. The date is 10 times hotter than my W. Not that my W isn't hot, she is. But this lady is even hotter. My friend seems to think it might put a bit of a jealous streak in my W if I do that. My friend says that if someone else finds value in me, my W might again to.

Who knows. It may be worth it just to see.

Kevin

[K4D]

Of course it could backfire to.

Kevin

[Deep]

Hi Kevin, just saying dropping in.

Re the priest, could be he sensed you had some way to go in the journey of having a good relationship with God, and it was his way of telling you to give it time and due process.

By the way, I found it very helpful and a source of comfort in difficult times praying the Divine Mercy Chaplet, especially considering the background of the prayer. You might want to give it a go (if you haven't already).