my W doesn't regret her affair

[Gnosis]

I need to put her back on her heels, and make her work to get me back,

A word of caution: This will only happen if the affair is busted or near bust.

Now onto your letter. Your communication short be short, succinct and to the point. How's this:

W,

Thanks for the extra time to reflect this last year. What was I thinking?!!! Who in their right mind would tolerate this kind of behavior and complete disrespect of family, morals and values from a person that supposedly loves them? Thank God I've had a moment of clarity! I've decided that I've had enough and am moving on. This means I need to finalize the legal separation ASAP.

From what I've heard, divorce is incredibly difficult and expensive in this state. It makes more financial sense to legally separate for a year. I'm busy scraping up the money to pay and get this done. Don't concern yourself if you can't afford your half right now. We need to get this done and I'll be more than happy to reduce your monthly support by $100 until it's paid off. It's a pity I didn't do this last year because I could have been totally free to pursue a new life already.

Even though it's not the outcome I desired, I've come to realize this is healthiest and best for the kids. They need some form of stability. Life's too short and I can't afford to wait around. I'm free to choose what I want and I think that this is the best.

The above display's NO SELF-PITY, decisiveness and clarity of intent. If you're worried about leeway... there is plenty of leeway in it for her to convince you that she is the right choice.

Also, reread the last few days posts. Think on this tonight and tomorrow. Deliver the letter to her on Friday night and give her the weekend to panic and scream for support from the OM. Oh, and make sure you are OUT OF CONTACT until Monday.