Help... I need to stop reacting!

[TrentC]

What did Rocked do?

STOOD MY GROUND, people. I stood my ground.

I told H again last night, in no uncertain terms that I will not agree to a separation at this point. I told him that I continue to choose this M and if he chooses to move out that is HIS choice and his alone to own to our kids and everyone else. H got a bit agitated and said, "I knew this would end up being about YOU and my issues that I am struggling with would get lost." OMG did I have to bite my tongue! And, I did. I remained calm and said, "I will be more than happy to help you sort out your issues, but not with OW in the picture. As long as she is in your life, then my focus is on what is best for our M and my stand is non-negotiable."

H got really quiet. Then said, "I don't know what I want." I said, "I know you don't. And I don't think you will be able to figure that out with OW in the picture."

H said, "You are awfully nice to someone who has betrayed you." I said, "It is not about being nice, it is about doing what is right."

I know H did not sleep well last night. I did.

I bow in the presence of a master. :bow:

That, as the kids like to say, is how it is done.