I'm going to disagree with you somewhat here. Quality is absolutely important; having sex with someone who's "only along for the ride" isn't terribly satisfying. On the other hand, on the quantity vs. quality debate, a famous man once said that "Quantity has a quality of its own." [I won't go into who said it because it would detract from the issue here] I'd give my right arm to have my wife passionately seduce me into mind-blowing ecstasy -- but if it was once a year I think I'd be pretty unhappy about 49 weeks out of 52. Anyway, A_M, the point is, and I think you've seen this from others here, the two of you need to come to an agreement as to what you BOTH feel comfortable with. It sounds to me like you've both got some stretching to do here; he needs to learn some more self-control and patience (and a muzzle might occasionally be helpful as well), and you need to learn to be more willing to be there for him. Bottom line, you BOTH NEED TO FEEL GOOD ABOUT IT. But for heaven's sake don't get married until you've got this worked out; vows and rings on your fingers don't suddenly make you different people. Don't get me wrong, I'm very pro-marriage (which is why my wife and I are going on 20 years). However, you need to go in with your eyes wide open. I wish you the best. Good Luck!
HERE is Edward Bear, coming downstairs now, bump, bump, bump, on the back of his head, behind Christopher Robin...sometimes he feels that there really is another way [of coming downstairs], if only he could stop bumping for a moment and think of it.
