It may seem like everyone is coming down a little hard on you (lighten up a bit, guys, she's here and she's looking for answers), but on these boards, if you ask a question you are gonna get answers.
Everyone here is speaking from experience, and they give you answers. You may not want to hear the answers, or some answers might seem a little, uh, frank or just downright BLUNT (me being the queen of blunt, I might add), but if you can keep your heart open and listen to the truth, that is what they deliver. AND to top it all off, the advice can actually have profound affects on changing your relationship if you have it in you to check your ego at the door.
I just wanted to make sure that you don't feel like the whole world seems to be coming down on you. Everyone here answers you because they are deeply caring people. We all want to see you succeed, even if it might not sound like it at times. People succeeding here gives us all hope, you know?
Spend some time thinking about what's been said. There is no need to defend yourself because we all know first hand that it takes two people in a relationship to cause a problem, and two people to fix it (don't we all?).
Hang with us. You'll solve this. You obviously are a highly intelligent woman with a great deal of caring in you, as evidenced by the fact that you are here in the first place.
