Thanks Kara, Puppy, & R2C. Wished I could've stopped myself & controlled myself a little better last night to wait for the advice.
Last night H got home around 1:00am and I heard him bringing in stuff (cleaning supplies). I walk out of my room to him wheeling in the vacuum cleaner. H says a very friendly hello to me. I just stop and stare at him before I said anything. H says "What?". AFG with an annoyed tone "I would appreciate it if you please don't take our cleaning supplies from the house for outside use." H instantly irritated "Why am I getting attitude?" AFG "I didn't think I was giving you attitude, I was simply making a request." H "No, you're giving me attitude and what does it matter if I take the cleaning stuff." AFG "It matters because those are our household items not to be taken or used elsewhere." H "OUR items?" AFG "They are common items for use here in this house." H "Whatever, whatever." I start to walk away and then turn and walk back, looked him straight on and said very matter of factly "You want it plain and simple. An example to help you out. It's like when I bought that KY, I didn't buy it so that you could go and f*** someone else and use it with them." and walked away and went in my bedroom and got in bed.
(There was a brand new box of that new Yours & Mine product that I had bought shortly after the Bomb and placed in a box of things for him and us in trying to do what I thought were nice things towards reconciliation. Not too long ago I found it, not in the box that I had put it in in his closet, but in his bedroom drawer along with some massage oils that had been in the other box as well and they had all been opened. I don't think he was using them just for his own personal use, as he has been out of town with OW recently. When I confronted him about it he lied and said he had thought he had thrown them out.)
Few minutes later H opens my door without knocking and says something that I didn't understand and closes my door. I get out of bed and follow H out to living room, "Excuse me?". H "Yah, excuse you. I am not going to be controlled in my own home anymore. I can do what I want with the things in my home and I don't want to hear anything more about it." AFG "This is not about me trying to control you or the things you do. Your personal items and personal life are your own. I DO however have an issue with common household items that are here for use in THIS house. And I didn't just go and buy all those cleaning supplies so you could take them and use them wherever." H angriliy "Fine - you wanted to take a dig at me with the KY comment, and get a rise out of me, you did. You wanted to start an argument, you did." AFG "I didn't want to start anything and I'm not trying to get anything out of you or from you." H cuts me off in conversation, "Just go to bed, this conversation is over, it's going nowhere, just go to bed." AFG "I'll choose when I want to finish speaking and when my part of the conversation is over. Please do not take the household cleaning items from the house. Thank you." And then I went to bed.
I didn't see him but I know that H woke up very late for work this morning...hmmm, methinks someone did not get much sleep last night?
Anyways, is there any reason to do any kind of damage control now at this point? I never did actually ask where he had taken the stuff or what he was using them for. Even if I had, I think he would've just lied anyways.
9.9, 9.7, 9.5, 9.7, 9.6, 9.8, 9.4, 9.7
Nice job, sometimes you have to let it fly.
Cheers
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
