Of course God will help you, he also gave your husband free will.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
GF, Wow! This is progress. So, this happened while D13 was waiting in the car, may want to allow for more time next time
Does anyone know where that MWD article on separated sex is? I can't find it. In my opinion, the BEST thing she's ever written, and what won me over to this site.
Basically, she says that sex is an emotional connection, especially for the woman. She said sometimes, when nothing else works, that still works, and that's OK. I'd go so far as saying God made it that way.
GF, my C actually made a podcast about this, and distinguished between the betrayed spouse and the betrayer. If the betrayed spouse (you) is OK with it, go for it!
Here's what we're all trying to tell you here: stop questioning everything. It sounds like you had fun, so enjoy it! It's so easy to second-guess everything in your sitch. It's OK to feel good.
As for protection, I always leave that up to W. A year ago she asked me to take an STD test, with no explanation. It ticked me off, but I did and it came back negative. If you want peace of mind, maybe do that. Probably no need to make things more awkward. Just my .02
From NC to this is MAJOR turn, but as with everything else be prepared for pullback. He'll get scared and you might hear some "this doesn't change anything" talk. Just blow it off.
Are you going to send the kids card or give it to him in person? I would give him the birthday card from the kids, and be sure to wish him a happy birthday.
Me: 30 W: 28 T 8, M 6 S: 7-27-2007 W filed (again) 3-2011 Served 8-2011 Responded, now dark "I have decided to stick with love. Hate is too great a burden to bear" MLK
How does one obtain separated sex? I would love to know.
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
Does anyone know where that MWD article on separated sex is? I can't find it. In my opinion, the BEST thing she's ever written, and what won me over to this site.
Basically, she says that sex is an emotional connection, especially for the woman. She said sometimes, when nothing else works, that still works, and that's OK. I'd go so far as saying God made it that way.
GF, my C actually made a podcast about this, and distinguished between the betrayed spouse and the betrayer. If the betrayed spouse (you) is OK with it, go for it!
Here's what we're all trying to tell you here: stop questioning everything. It sounds like you had fun, so enjoy it! It's so easy to second-guess everything in your sitch. It's OK to feel good.
As for protection, I always leave that up to W.
I think it depends GREATLY on whether or not there is infidelity involved, or even suspected infidelity. If there is confirmed adultery going on, that would change a lot of people's opinion on the "to ML or not ML" question, and it would DAMN sure make a "Oh, I leave that up to my spouse" position on protection very naive, if not downright dangerous.
The kids will see him I won't unless I go outside when he picks up our D13. Kevin, I took him the mac and cheese he asked me to make him the night before and he asked me what he owed me and said he was broke. I said no, not money and started laughing and it went from there. But I couldn't believe it happened either. But basically I am the one that started it. It has been over a year for me and him too. As far as I know.
A friend of mine said I should buy just a plain card since we are being civil and take it to him after I ask if it is ok and he is alone and then try to do it again. But that is way off of Dbusting, I would think.
Do I wait now for him to contact me regarding ML? Or should I do what friend of mine said to do. I would love to be with him again, and have a little more time next time.
I don't think mac and cheese would work on my W. DOH!
Kevin
Me 36, W 37 M: 08/02/97 D13, D9 1st Bomb 02/08 Reconciled 04/08 2nd Bomb: 09/08 W filed for D 02/04/09 Separated 03/09 D dismissed 06/09/09 Still separated...
