'' I had an awakening this morning"

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I am reading DR right now. Also read 5 Love Languges. I have a copy of this "180 list" in my truck that I read through every day. I know it is going to be a rollercoaster.
I am pretty good at being a roommate. Thats how we have lived the past 4 yrs, except we used to say "I Love You" in the morning before work and before we went to bed, and gave each other a kiss. Is was just a routine. I do love her very much, but I know that I will not be showing those acts of affection.

I'm still in the same house with my W - seperate rooms though since the bomb. I can tell you where I struggled so you can be on the lookout for thses for you:
-Not being able to say ILY - was a big deal for me. I said it often to her pre-bomb.
-When we retreat to our sep. bedrooms each night.
-Just being around her knowing I could not kiss/hug her.

There are probably more.

In my sitch, I took the time, sometimes unintentionally, to work on myself. Really get acquainted with me. As much as you can, try not to focus on her (somewhere in the background I hear Yoda saying "Try not. There is only do." or something like that).

Do things with your kids. And just try not to be available to her. That means no sitting around the house waiting to see what she is doing, will ask you to do, etc. Get busy with yourself.

How long since your bomb and how are things going now?