I really appreciate what Cathy has to say here, and can tell you, Almost_Married, that if my wife *acted* like Cathy's friend just half the time, I would not be on this website.
This is not a brag, but I am the size you are looking for, and am handsome (so my wife tells me), yet she wants me an average of once every 2-3 months. Go figure?? My point is that sex in a relationship is very much a state of mind. My wife is stunning, yet she is completely incapable of having a healthy sexual relationship with me. Something is blocking her. I want her to be more responsive to me, physically, yet when I touch her in a sexy manner she is uterly unresponsive, and that makes me desire her less. I have had much stronger physical attractions to women not as pretty as my wife, because it's in my mind. The electricity with those women was stronger because we could read each other, much like Cathy's friend reads her spouse. It is not an *act* to follow thru on an intuition of what will make your spouse happy. It's a journey of give and take. A long, but potentially very satisfying journey.
