I gain clarification by asking questions. I only ask questions when I am ready to accept the truth without over reacting.

"Where did you take the cleaning supplies?"

H will choose to speak truth or lie.

I gain respect by setting boundaries:

"I will not tolerate being lied to" take action and walk away.
"I will not tolerate our household items used for OW" Take action. Changing locks is extreme. Best action is enforceable by YOU. My divorce papers said I was NOT to remove joint property from the marital home without joint agreement. File for divorce. He will not be able to remove items without your consent. Just food for thought.


Predicting his responses to you and having appropriate responses to him are good skills.

"What is best for my kids is best for me"
Amor Fati
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