Quote: Can I ask you one other thing? If I'm not interested 4 days a week but he is, do I ignore my feelings or lack of interest and do it anyway? And if so, won't he notice that I'm not into it? I'm starting to understand why a lot of "GOOD WIVES" are "GOOD ACTORS".
I've had this discussion with girlfriends of mine. It's my opinion that if you compromise at times and have sex even though you are not in the mood it does not mean having to "act." It's an attitude. It's about loving someone enough to step outside yourself and how you are feeling in that moment and do for them. I have a girlfriend who can tell when her husband is in the "mood." Regardless of what her mood is she will set the stage. Light candles, run a bubble bath for the 2 of them and give him an evening of pleasure. She says it's about doing for him...not about how she is feeling or what she is wanting but about the satisfaction she gets from making him feel good about himself.
I don't believe any of us should ever act or compromise ourselfs. I do believe though that if you genuinely love someone and care about what they need then you are willing to give even if you aren't in the mood to give. It means less pain for the other person and isn't that what loving someone means? Cathy
