My wife knew I wore my love emotions on my sleeve, not my anger emotions,i would give silent treatment or just flat cut someone off for good. never hid anything from anyone but her.
She loved me quite a bit and i think that had a lot to do with this too.
She felt she was my sole supporter and the only one that could make me happy. A lot of that was true and in return for her making me happy, i smothered the heck out of her, too much so.
I know for a fact, I was not good at respecting her boundaries, so now when I do know she's going out of town or when we were together, have fun enjoy yourself.
The old husband wouldn't want her to do anything without him, but then i did that 180 july of 07 like she asked, then she flipped a 180 and wanted to things together again.
It was always a balancing act as to what she wanted. And she wouldn't or didn't say until this stuff what she was thinking, now that stuff is valid and darn it, she can't see that i made changes and she did acknowledge them and appreciated them, when we were a couple.
It's almost like she had two different personalities her whole life and I was always trying to catch up with one of them or I'd get frustrated and take control and say we're doing this then.
I'd ask her all the time, what do you want to do? she'd say whatever you want to do? Well in my mind, i'm like kids are gone let's get naked.
IN HER MIND, she wanted to go see her friends. But didn't tell me.
