Does anyone know where that MWD article on separated sex is? I can't find it. In my opinion, the BEST thing she's ever written, and what won me over to this site.
Basically, she says that sex is an emotional connection, especially for the woman. She said sometimes, when nothing else works, that still works, and that's OK. I'd go so far as saying God made it that way.
GF, my C actually made a podcast about this, and distinguished between the betrayed spouse and the betrayer. If the betrayed spouse (you) is OK with it, go for it!
Here's what we're all trying to tell you here: stop questioning everything. It sounds like you had fun, so enjoy it! It's so easy to second-guess everything in your sitch. It's OK to feel good.
As for protection, I always leave that up to W.
I think it depends GREATLY on whether or not there is infidelity involved, or even suspected infidelity. If there is confirmed adultery going on, that would change a lot of people's opinion on the "to ML or not ML" question, and it would DAMN sure make a "Oh, I leave that up to my spouse" position on protection very naive, if not downright dangerous.
