Oh, I forgot to give you one story of hope (but it is weird for me and you will see why):

My WH's exwife left him suddenly for OM. She married OM. 4 years later, she starts emailing my WH telling him she made a terrible mistake and now has 2 kids with this man and she deeply regrets leaving WH.

ANd you see on this board, it does happen. Reconciliation after divorce I mean!

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004