Thanks Trent,

I guess what I am asking is if one person is going this way and one that is there any hope in the situation?

I know I can't control her but it is very hard to detach when we sleep in the same bed, live in the same house etc etc.

All I see is the beutiful wife I love and want to be close too and all she see's is the person she hates.

I can live with that and accept it but I feel like I'm beating my head against the wall trying to put it back together.