This is some insight on what goes on in the mlcers mind. Just after she told me of the affair she started writing down things about her life etc. and she was hoping to discuss it with an IC.
‘Delboy and I have never been a lovey dovey couple. He wears his heart on his sleeve and very often I felt uncomfortable in his company (when we went out together). I never told him as I didn’t want to hurt his feelings and this has been going on for years.
He is a very sincere, thoughtful kind person and I love him for that. But I’m not in love with him. I admit that I have put other people’s feelings before my own. I had low self esteem (she’s always had it since about the age of 5) when at secondary school, and upon leaving. I put finding a boyfriend before anything else. I got a name for myself mixing with PH (a Man, very good seducer).
My mum kept saying “I wish you would find a boyfriend”. When I met Delboy I thought I fancy him and I did and when that feeling cooled down I was a part of his family. I got well looked after so I just sat back. I ran after Delboy (In the beginning 1975-6) because I thought I wouldn’t get another boyfriend even though I never had strong feelings for him. He had his problems and he felt really close to me he could confide in only me, I am a good listener.’
