When I have my kids with me, I like to limit their sugar intake. I don't see anything wrong with her making that request. You know exactly what she meant. She didn't say it was the worst thing, as bad as divorce, she said "I wish you wouldn't do it with candy..." It is a request. You both (Antlers and K4D) are really convoluting the issue IMO. You really can't co-parent if you go to the "but you are ruining their lives by divorcing..." place.
Just my two cents.
Kinda like when she was moving out, she would only move stuff at night so the neighbors wouldn't see! She didn't mind ripping our family apart...she just didn't want the neighbors to see it!
Massive diversion dude. You know I'm on your side and that's why I'm telling you that if your mind goes to her moving out and ripping your family apart when in receipt of a request to give the kids less sugar (basically), you've got work to do. You only feel controlled because of where YOUR mind goes with this stuff. I want to encourage you to let the little stuff roll off of you, there are plenty of big fish to fry. I spent a lot of time indulging here venting and getting all of the affirmations that H was wrong or a jerk or whatever. Ultimately, I was keeping myself tethered and stuck.
