Coach, I honestly don't even see a dig unless one is hypersensitive. She acknowledged his intentions and prefers he do it another way...she even called it a "wish" indicating that she knows the limitations of her entitlement with Antlers. This is really no biggie. I am interested in why you guys don't see the simplicity in this one...
Ever since she left, she has known that I didn't want our marriage to end...and she used the power that she had (she was already detatched) to totally dictate things to me, regarding the kids or whatever. She felt 'entitled' to dictate nearly everything to me. She even felt entitled to dictate things to me, about the kids, while the kids were with me! And she still feels that power and sense of entitlement. If a "piece of candy is just a piece of candy" and it's no biggie...then why even mention it to me in the first place?
My point was that in THIS case, she would rather they not have candy. It is IMO, an okay thing to express as co-parent. It does not necessarily have to trigger the cascade of past events and dynamics.
