Originally Posted By: Thinker
2) Your w is not doing this to hurt you. She is doing this because she is in pain and she does not know what else to do. She does not think she has a choice.
Almost always true. And tough to keep in mind through our own hurt and anger.

Keeping this in my thoughts "My dear friend is 'extremely confused and in a tremendous amount of pain,'"(her sister's words to me early on), helped me cope and stay focused.


Gardener

"My soul, be satisfied with flowers,
With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them
In the one garden you may call your own."
Cyrano deBergerac