Bunny, I have not been around for a while, as my sitch is in rough spot, and I am just exhausted, but wanted to keep you in my thoughts.
(((((bunny))))))
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I can't sleep. I nodded off for maybe 45 minutes and woke up. Too many thoughts going through my mind- it won't quiet down and it's after 2am. This is going to the first of lots of long nights, I think.
You'll need as much sleep as you can get, to keep your head clear as possible. I have resorted to Advil PM's, or Tylenol PM's, they are non addictive, and can give you just enough drowsy to help you get to sleep.
Keep your faith that you will prevail against all obstacles. Everyone here is giving you great advice, we all support you!
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
I just called a moving company and they can move my living room furniture the afternoon of 11/28 like I wanted- I got lucky with the short notice. I have a couple of dressers available from my Grandma, and I'm going to scout the furniture outlets for a couple of beds and a kitchen table. I'm good to go. This is getting very real now.
I still can't believe he took 10 grand... My mom he said he is "just that kind of person". He was done and just going through the motions at MC. I should have known better, but I won't misjudge him again.
Sounds great. Have you removed yourself from ALL the joint accounts? Take your half of whatever to take care of yourself until the court decides what to do.
11/28 like I wanted- I got lucky with the short notice.
I'll say it again, take notice of these little things, you'll think back afterward and go, wow, how did all that just fall into place correctly, and you'll be able to know you are on the right track.
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I still can't believe he took 10 grand... My mom he said he is "just that kind of person". He was done and just going through the motions at MC. I should have known better, but I won't misjudge him again.
This is something to be prepared for, I wasn't when I went into court and saw the true nature of my STBXW. It's a cold realization that they will be out to get everything they can, and think they are entitled to everything that's yours and that you have worked for your family for.
Make note of those in a journal though, they will give you some clarity into there mindset. Once you have been out for a bit, you'll gain some perspective on your relationship and start to see things for how they really were.
I'd like to think I was in a bit of a 'fog' myself in our MR, and it's coming clearer now as I look back.
M: 41 STBXW: 41 D: 9 Bomb: 4/26/09
On board the D train now..
"Suffering is when we try to change what we cannot."
He'll probably be home, he doesn't work on Saturdays. I think I will tell him Friday when he sees me packing, and encourage him to go visit his sister or something with the kids on Saturday. I wouldn't be surprised if he wants to stay to supervise what I take, but if that's the case, I'll ask him to have one of his brothers supervise instead.
I think I will tell him Friday when he sees me packing, and encourage him to go visit his sister or something with the kids on Saturday.
Do you have someone who will be helping you Friday night? I don't like the idea of you being alone with him once he knows you are leaving.
And congratulations on making this move.
Me: 44, Wife: 39 M: 17 years T: 20 years Bomb on 08/25/09 1/13/10: MC started 1/28/10, 2/8/10: More bombs 8/28/10: Wife moved out No talk of D, no movement
