Oh, and if I do decide to D at some point, it would be WH's fault for messing up our son's life with his destructive action, not mine for choosing to not tolerate such treatment. So I don't really like that "guilt trip" if I choose to walk away from this whole mess and don't think it's fair.

I have stuck it out this far so that says something about my willingness to try.

me,34
exH,34
S,16 months
S:3/31/09-left for OW
started DBing 10/09
d final: sometime 10/10
current:
http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1
met in 2004