Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

Oh, now I get what you meant by singing! I read in one of the books that we can all tend to get so serious and lose our sense of humor over the years with our spouses. She says to lighten up and it is good advice. What made me laugh was when she said to "have fun" trying out the different strategies to get your WS attention (i.e. 180, GAL, LRT, Act As If). I think she meant to see their reaction to each. ???

Thanks for reminding me about the issue of friends and family to encourage me to D. I guess I am concerned that they are so disgusted by WH and could never forgive him for what he did/is doing and therefore don't respect me if I want to be with him. I have not talked to them about our situation since August. I told them that I would bring it up if I wanted to talk about it but instead lets focus on the rest of our lives when conversing.

I don't mean to sound immature. I am referring to my close group of 3 friends that I have known 12-20 years and WH and I have spent a lot of time with them! I have told 2 work friends and although I do like them a lot, I wouldn't consider them my family like the close 3. There was also no way that I could have kept this as a secret from the 3 close friends...I had to tell someone at work and trust those 2, plus they have experienced infidelity as well so they understood! But one's H cheated on her with at least 3 different women, and got 2 of them pregnant. So she couldn't put up with that (and NEITHER would I , I totally feel 100% fine walking away from WH if he got OW pregnant. I am NOT THAT STRONG.)

As for my family, they are supportive of whatever I want and genuinely like WH. Maybe they are supportive because they are older and wiser or because all have been divorced. (except my grandma--she actually just feels sorry for WH at this point!)