K4D Rising #4

[K4D]

Detach, yes I know.

I woke up this morning and did some praying for W's day, my girls day, and other M's and my day. Then I got started getting ready for work and headed out.

W calls me on the way to work. She says that D11 has given everyone real attitude problems. She is really berating her sister D7 and last night told D7 that she has to ask permission to get on the couch. W went off on D11 for that. So W sends D11 to her room. Then W hears D11 crying and goes in to see why. D11 has a picture of my mom on her phone who is now deceased and is crying about it. W tells her that she would buy it if D11 hadn't just gotten in trouble. W takes away D11's cell phone and sees that D11 has put on her cell phone that she hates her family.

W points out to D11 that D11 seems to have a problem with everyone else and nobody has a problem with her. Who is the common denominator here. Of course D11 has to acknowledge that. D11 has always had anger issues when she didn't get her way. D7 isn't doing anything to her, but D11 takes everything out on D7 anyways.

So W tells D11 that she is doing permanent damage to D7.

Prior to W taking away the cell phone D11 sends a text to me and W asking on a scale of 1 to 10 how much do we love her, how much do we love D7, and how much do we love each of them. Well, both me and my W responded equally and that nothing would ever change that.

Then W tells D11 who would be the type of person to treat kids differently. D11 says a cold hearted person. So W asked D11 if W is cold hearted and D11 says no. I'm sitting here thinking W's mom does exactly that to D11 and D7. She has always shown obvious favor to D11 and hurt D7's feelings many times. But I didn't say my thoughts. W tells me she is limiting contact now between D11 and her mom. I think that is great. Her mom is a terrible person in how she treats people. She has done nothing to build the bond between D11 and D7. She has done a lot of damage there.

So W calls me and wants me to ground D11 tonight instead of waiting for her to come back to W's house. I'm onboard. We have to be in agreement with the kids.

W tells me that her and the C believe that D11 is using this D as an excuse to manipulate things her way more than anything. I said I think the separation is playing a part in it, but not completely. I refused to say D, I will refer to it as a separation.

I told W that I am glad D11 is in C. She really has some issues that are coming with the hormone changes, family changes, middle school, etc.

That being aside I did some research on some books that could help out in handing D11 better or at least maybe could. I sent them to my W.

Books that might help you and me with D11.

The Power Of a Praying Parent
The Power of a Praying Parent : Prayer and Study Guide The Power of a Praying Parent Book of Prayers Shepherding a Child's Heart

For D11

It's Not About Me: Live Like You Mean It (Teen Edition) By Max Lucado Facing Your Giants : Teen Edition By Max Lucado Just Like Jesus for Teens By Max Lucado Redefining Beautiful: What God Sees When God Sees You By Jenna Lucado and Max Lucado

Apparently W has also bought 2 american girl books that she wants D11 to read a chapter in each night about helping her grow and then email both me and W what she read and learned each night. I said ok. D11 hates to read so this should be interesting.

W says quickly that her end date is the end of December for her contract and then says have a good day and goodbye. I said have a good day and goodbye as well.

That way my morning.

Oh, I did get an email from the C yesterday saying she thought the session Tuesday evening with W and the girls went really well.

Kevin