Wow. What will my friends and family think of me? All but my mom, my g-ma and one internet friend think I should have divorced my WH long ago. And now I am vowing to postpone plan D further? Seriously, I will need to be even more brave and bold by facing my condescending friends and relatives when I tell them I am not filing for D. I wonder if I will lose friends b/c of this decision.
If you lose friends because you decided to follow your own path in life then you really don't need them as friends. Friends are there to support you and pick you up when you fall over. They are not there to insist you do it their way or you're out!
This is also something that is tackled in the DR book. Friends and family encouraging you to D - mine do the same. What they are actually doing though is looking out for you and looking for a way for you to stop hurting - the obvious way is to D which is why they want you to do it. When you hurt they also hurt so it is also a way for them to get away from that pain. It's human nature. It's natural but it doesn't help you when you are wanting to fight for your M.
Me 36, W 34 | D 8 | M 3.5y Sep 2Aug09 | Left 6Sep09 | OM in 10Oct09 | NC 17Nov09 | Gave up caring - Jan 2010
"Have integrity. Do what is right, not what is expedient." "Delay is the antidote for anger"
