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I think you are still beating the "Look what you did to me" drum to death. If you don't want things to improve, keep beating it. Keep throwing this all in his face all of the time. Yes what he did is terrible, no excuse. However, why on Earth would anyone want to be constantly reminded of their terrible deed.

He won't be able to move towards you until he knows that he isn't going to get all of this thrown back in his face. Perhaps you could have sent a text "Thinking of you." instead of the dreary, harsh one you sent.

If you want this over so be it, but if you want to have a chance stop doing what you are doing. There will be time enough later when you both are on more solid ground to rehash all of this cr@p.

I admire you and adore you and I am hoping that you will give yourselves a break from the darkness. Someone NEEDS to turn the light on.

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It's no use.I cant explain it. I am confused. The bottom line is, I dont know if I love him enough romantically and since I do believe that this Quantum of Solace could flourish to something more, ONLY if he would step up the "wining back" process and he doesnt,I want to quit. I am thinking of quiting.

I am not throwing what happened in his face. He spends days with us and he hears nothing from me about it. Not a word. Even if some days, he keeps his phone close, or never answered to my request for his email passwords, or never replied about the counceling... Even when we sleep in the same bed and he doesnt hug me, I go to him and snuggle and go back to my side discouraged because he wont respond...

Why do I want him to tell me he loves me? Because he doesnt show it. Maybe if I heard it, it would help me feel closer.

Let's keep it "light" here. I feel bad talking about it over and over again.
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