I asked him to fill out the EN questionair in June shortly before we split and here is what he came back with
Domestic Support Family Commitment Financial Support Honesty and Openness Conversation
Now these are very unusual for a man - there are 2 options - he either lied on the form or he was deep in fog and the things important to him he just didn't want to have fulfilled by me. I filled it out for him and came up with the following:
Sexual Fulfillment Attractive Spouse Domestic Support Admiration
I think what got us on the wrong path from day 1 in April was my suspicion that he had an affair back then and he denies it at every given opportunity. I just have no other explanation for his behaviour then an affair - especially the anger and blame towards me, his complete lack of trying to fix our relationship - he was like a different man from one day to the next.
Why he has the affairs - I have no idea - but like I said I can only proof the one after we split. He told me he is finished completely with me - that was before Plan A - he can't get over the fact that I don't trust him and that I snooped so much - I mean there was the PI, accessing email and IM, phone records. And you know what I would have snooped more if I could have - I had to proof every singlr thing - he adnmitted nothing about the girl he dated. He went to great length to send me an email with "the truth" about her and it was all lies - unreal.
So I uncovered bit by bit most things about her but am stuck with the proof for his co-worker which in my opinion is more important as it jumpstarted all of this mess.
I have no idea what he is doing since August - affair wise I mean - so am a little lost for what to do next.
I don't know why I have this in my head but I think if I can proof that he had in fact an affair with his co-worker I have more chances to get him back then if he didn't, because if he didn't I am really only paranoid and he would have been correct all along that I messed up our marriage with my jealousy.
