Well Christmas is rearing it’s ugly head already. Not sure what to do. My H asked the kids to go round on the morning and they’ve all said no. Now he’s asked them to go round in the afternoon. That would put us under pressure to get dinner/present opening done by a certain time and I don’t want that. It makes sense to me for him to call round at our house where the kids would be – given that he’s going out somewhere anyway. I don’t think he wants to do that as he feels it would be awkward. When you leave your W and start a R with her best friend some situations are bound to be awkward that’s just part of the territory I think. It doesn’t feel difficult for me or the kids he’s the only one who’s reluctant.
I want to stay out of any R that he has with the kids, but do I suggest that he comes to us for a couple of hours as that’s easier. If I do that would it come over us pursuing or controlling?
He’s already decided to take the kids to his mum’s for Boxing Day so it’s not as if he’s not going to see them. His parents are happy to see me, but he doesn’t feel it appropriate that I go.
