Separated--Does Not Admit to OW

[saffie]

benotafraid,

have you thought that by being a bit mysterious, cryptic about what you do, you may pique his curiosity.

Many WAS seem to not be bothered about the LBS until they see them moving on.....and in their heads see them as possibly having someone else. Now I am not saying that you need to go find someone else, you are standing for your M, but maybe not always being available when your H expects you to be, or having to curtail a meeting/ phonecall etc., because you 'have to be somewhere else@ may start him thinking a bit. It may also make you seem more exciting. At the moment it sounds to me that you are safe and predictable to your H. He feels safe in the knowledge at the moment that he has as much time as he wants on his hands to make a decision as if things don't work out with OW you will still be there waiting.

I have read on here that people just went to book shops to get out the house but you could also join a ladies reading group, join a cookery group or a gardening group.....anything that gets you out the house and makes it so your H doesn't always know what you are up to.

Busy, interesting people are those that others tend to be attracted towards, and it also helps you forget for a while the constant thoughts about your H.

How about a dance class? A salsa group? Lots of my single GF's have gone to those. A great way to meet people of both sexes and get some exercise.