Just want my H back

[pearlharbr]

Just want to know what I'm getting myself into. I know there are no certainties, but if he's 100% sure he's done w me - and no action or inaction will change that - than yes, I would rather move on w my life. And if he doesn't want to make it work given this final approach, am I better off without him?

I guess if I go down this path and he complies, I'd somehow feel better knowing that's what would have happened anyway, rather than feeling that I forced it or something.

The first part is right--there are no certainties. You want a guarantee that doing X or Y is the right thing to do, meaning the right thing to do to get him back. It's the same thing as all LBS wanting to know why their WAS just left without any warning and without wanting to work on the M. You have to come to terms with the fact that you may never know these answers. That's why you make choices based on WHAT'S THE RIGHT THING TO DO FOR HHH.

I'm also an advocate of you knowing when it's right to file if it's right for you. I can't explain it other than for me, it was like a light switch being flipped and at that point I just knew. If you don't feel it, don't do it.

I do urge you to not make that decision based on fear of the unknown. Decisions based on fear will not lead to you living your best life.