So how do I negotiate with someone who thinks she is calling the shots? Why does the mother automatically assume she can decide on how to handle the kids?I have rights too.
It may be b/c years ago the courts would usually grant the mother custody and the dad would get alternate weekends. He paid child support and was lucky to get his kids on alternate holidays. But, the courts are not that way in this day & time. I believe that fathers are getting more of their "rights" and a lot of moms are taking a back seat.
Your W is trying to convince herself (and you) that she has nothing to worry about and that she will get what she wants based soley on the fact she is the mother. I think she is in for a surprise!
I know a couple that had two sons and went to court over custody. The W would talk about her job and all that stuff.....and the dad would simply say, "I love my boys". Guess who the juge granted custody to?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
