It is not a lack of self-respect that causes you to take a stand for your M. It is the fact that you value the meaning of marriage and you believe in committment.
Thank you - Out of everything said today you made me understand it was ok to feel this way because you hit the nail on the head...
In hindsight I wish I had not shared so much with some people IRL because once it gets thrown in my face, I second guess each and every move I have made thus far.
It truly makes me almost want to compromise my beliefs just so people will shut up and leave me alone.
Originally Posted By: kara
The feeling of being disrespected is overwhelming. It can bring you to the ground in pain.
Exactly how I felt today.
Originally Posted By: kara
BUT...ultimately our S are disrespecting God more than they are disrespecting us.
This is so true and so sad to me
Originally Posted By: kara
WALK YOUR PATH with pride and let him walk his. Once you ask God will let you know what you are supposed to do and I know you won't question that
I needed this reminder once again.
Thank you Kara - Hugs to you
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
We are all here to get you through this day, so just let us know what you need. I, for one, will be praying for you.
I already got what I needed...
No matter how good I feel or how bad I feel, I always find the support, encouragement, good friendship, love, faith, courage, wisdom etc...That I am seeking...
You guys rock!
Thank you so much for coming by and lifting my spirits today.
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
Why am I allowing that wanker (my new word for the day) to occupy so much of my thoughts today?
He doesn't deserve me wasting a minute on reliving this sitch over and over.
So I am off to (hopefully) dreamland but not before prayer and giving thanks for what should have been in my mind today.
Tomorrow is a new day and I will wake up in a better mood with a more positive outlook - Know why? Because my outlook has changed for the better since I awoke this am.
(((Hugs))) and prayers for you all.
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
About three weeks ago the disrespect I was feeling started to overwhelm me.I spent days growing angrier and angrier and could literally feel my heart racing in my chest. One night I couldn't get to sleep because it was racing so fast. That is WHEN a light-bulb went off in my head and I realized that I could not do that anymore. It was just too unhealthy. I realized that I truly had to give it to God and leave it there. I cannot SOLVE my H , nor is it my job to. The battle is not mine, it is the Lord's. My job is to pray for H and live my life according to God's will for me.
So, I chose to walk my own path and leave my H to his path without tying myself up in knots about it. I am giving him what he wants - limited contact and a warm but business like approach. I have seriously limited interaction with him because this is what he wants, right? I am busy enjoying MY LIFE because I am done with the drama. I am letting him initiate the conversations and contact. I have done this before but then allowed mysellf to become caught back up in what he was doing, where he was going etc.I find I am in my healthiest state of mind when I just ignore his actions once they are not violating the boundaries I have identified to him. God doesn't want me to sit around wondering and worrying when I have given my problems to Him.
Sorry for hijacking your thread but I just wanted to let you know what has been working for me when I face the same issues you do. I have decided that I owe it to myself to enjoy my life.
BTW there is a song I just love. It is called "God favored me". I can't remember who signs it but you can find it on You Tube. Part of it goes "Will not bend, will not bow, God favors me"....
Tomorrow is a new day and I will wake up in a better mood with a more positive outlook - Know why? Because my outlook has changed for the better since I awoke this am. (((Hugs))) and prayers for you all.
"Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could, Some blunders and absurdities have crept in; Forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day. You shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense."
Emerson
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
Everything you said is true and I know it deep in my heart, I wish I wouldn't allow the thoughts to overtake me however I can at least admit, they aren't as bad as when this journey first started.
No apologies on the h/j - This helps me a lot so I appreciate any input and I am willing to try different options to help me make my journey a little easier.
It is only when I stop the truly look at the situation as a whole that I beging to have a problem.
I have gone totally dark on him...We don't speak at all not even about the kids anymore - He has basically taken the "Out of sight, out of mind" approach and I can't lie and say it doesn't break my heart.
I received an email this morning with the following passage which I thought was perfect after the last couple of days - Just another reminder that He is still looking out for us.
(((Hugs))) and prayers for you.
"But we have this treasure in jars of clay to show that this all-surpassing power is from God and not from us. We are hard pressed on every side, but not crushed; perplexed, but not in despair; persecuted, but not abandoned; struck down, but not destroyed." II Corinthians 4:8-9
I will look up the song on youtube - Thank you
May All Who Seek To Take My Life Be Put To Shame And Confusion; May All Who Desire My Ruin Be Turned Back In Disgrace. ~Psalm 40:14~
