I look at it this way. My friends are people who I respect and trust, and they respect and trust me. X and Mrs. X neither respect or trust me, and have done nothing that I would consider an act of friendship. And their actions have proven that I cannot trust them and I certainly don't respect them....so by definition they can't be my friends. I do best if interactions are primarily through e-mail...no emotions involved.
Hi, been lurking and this caught my eye. I was asked by someone about the possibility of being "friends" with STBXW recently (by a friend, not by her). I replied, "Nope. No can do. I look at it this way: if any friend demonstrated - proved - to me that their word, promise, commitment (let alone vow) was meaningless, worthless, then I would consider that proof-positive that that person ceased to be my friend at that point. And I certainly would no longer be their friend." And my sitch doesn't even involve infidelity. So, friendly? Yes when necessary for kids' and stepkids' sake & appearances. Friend? No way.
my $,02 butting in.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac
