The adventure chronicles

[AFWAW]

Thanks, most days are better now.

Well, I had some drama yesterday. The wife emailed me at work asking if I needed her to pick up my daughter. She also gave me the info on a cruise she's taking my daughter on this next week and that when the cruise was over, she was going to drop her back off for 3 days and then take her for another 4 days. She also said that she anticipates spending each weekend with her unless we come up with some
other arrangement and that my daughter will be spending every other weekend with her from Friday evening through Monday morning. She said, my daughter doesn't have to come over every weekend, but that she'd like to spend time with her during the day at least once per weekend.

I emailed her back and said the following:

If you could pick her up I would appreciate it. I got it about the cruise. I
don't know why you think you're going to take her for a week, drop her
off for 4 days and then get her for 3 days after that--I don't see that
happening. That's fine that you want to get her every other weekend but
when I have her for the weekend she will be spending time with me. I
don't have any questions but don't expect that you're going to be
directive with me and get your way just because you say so.


Her response was the following:

I am simply notifying you of my intentions so you're aware. You've had
her for months solid so I don't particularly care if you don't like the
visitation situation. It can be addressed in court if you so choose.

And then she made a major foul by calling my work. She talked with my boss and got pissy with him because I wasn't available and she didn't know what time to pick up her child. She threatened to call the first sergeant and so on. My boss came and pulled me out of a meeting and I called her.

I asked her what was so important that she bother me at work. She started yelling about she didn't know what time to pick my daughter up. I tried to tell her to call the school and/or a good time to show up but she kept trying to talk over me. So, I hung up the phone, counted to 30 and called back. She answered and I said, now, that's what's going to happen everytime you try to talk over me and told her what time to pick up my daughter.

Fast forward to later. I called her when I got home to make sure she picked up my daughter and she asked if we could talk. I told her sure. We talked and I basically blasted her for calling my work and stirring up stuff that didn't matter but that was not good for my work. She started to get defensive and ask me why I was talking like this and why I was reacting this way and why her daughter was acting the way she was. So, I spelled it for her and told her in a nutshell that the reason that things were the way they were was because she left and that she needed to go and get counseling and that she needed to be nicer to our daughter and that she was a selfish, selfish person and I hung up.

So, I go to get my daughter and she says Mommy asked if you hate her? I said, no I don't hate her. She said, well Mommy said you yelled at her. I told her that I was upset with her that was all.

So, I go drop my daughter off and tell her good night and the wife asks if I want to come in. I politely declined and tried to leave but she talked to me outside and asked why she couldn't come home. I told her that I thought that it was over and that I didn't want to be with a woman that didn't love and respect me. She said that she did and started to cry. I shook my head and said that she didn't show it through her actions and that I've had enough drama for today and that I was going home and going to bed.

Ugh, even though it's been a while, that was tough and it affected my mood today.