Do you ever just....look at your H and wonder wth he is hearing? That fog they live in seems to be pretty dense.
Dusk
Hi Dusk, Absolutely. It constantly baffles me. I am learning to accept that this is just the way it is. He is in a fog. That is just a fact. He is not the man I have loved all these years. That is just a fact.
These facts are painful. But they are what they are.
BTW, one of the little helpful hints my C taught me today for "grounding": Take a few minutes to do something that focuses you on each of your five senses (eg. smell a tea bag, focus on and describe an object to yourself, hold an object and focus on the feeling of it, etc.) - do this with each of your five senses and keep breathing deeply while doing this. It works.
H has a "work" meeting tonight... made a point of telling me it might run long. These were the sitches that caused me so much anxiety in the past. Tonight I will work on staying grounded.
H actually has been telling me he is starting to feel pressured by OW. All the more reason for me to be calm and detached, stand my ground.
