My atty suggested asking H about it and discreetly recording his answer. He said if I am entitled to half of it, I can get it back later, but again it makes H look real bad. I can't believe he did this!!
I bought a $19 Radio Shack digital voice recorder when I recently (some say wrongly) confronted my STBXW's lecherous landlord. They work great, easy, great quality, even when tucked away in a breast pocket (they're very small. Get one. For this and possible future needs.
Gardener
"My soul, be satisfied with flowers, With fruit, with weeds even; but gather them In the one garden you may call your own." Cyrano deBergerac