PS WHat is it you need to forgive him for? Did he have an A or what? I keep hearing about trust on both sides but what is it you are referring to? Changing moods and going back and forth are not really trust issues so much as consistency to me. Seems to reflect confusion or passive aggressive behaviors or both...not sure "trust" is a word I'd used here. You tell us though...what's up?
I need to forgive him for the emotional abuse that he has put me through the last 10 years..telling me I am fat, ugly, stupid, a shrew..why would anyone want me...Blaming me for EVERYTHING. He left me many times, even if just for a night. He flirted with women in front of me...He told me last christmas eve when I asked him to put together a baby crib for our d that he hates me, he will always hate me and when he wakes up in the morning and he is sober his feeling would not change, it was 1 in the morning and I just wanted our D to have a nice christmas, I was afraid she would wake up and see that her crib was in a box...I cried and cried myself to sleep on christmas eve..He had a supposed emotional or PA with my best friend..in which I will NEVER know because they could NEVER tell the truth..when I confronted him he left, said our M was over, would not answer my calls or tell me where he was...he cleaned out our bank account the next day..I know she called him 3 times that night. We reconciled..bought our house, got preg with S and the rest is history..he did nothing to make me feel secure or even tell me the truth..it was the same story..nothing happened..when I knew something did..even if they talked..the truth really could have helped..
